Darling Mom, I miss you already

My darling Mom passed away peacefully earlier today, with my sister and her husband by her side. So, I didn’t get to see her again, which saddens me greatly. I don’t think anything can prepare us for the death of a parent, and especially a mother. There is such a special bond between a mother and her child, which is profound and unfathomable. Whilst I had my mom, I was still her child. Now that she’s gone, I feel somewhat at a loss. My dad died ten years ago, and that was really hard, but I still had my mom, so all was not lost. Over the past couple of years, her mental health had deteriorated and she’d become very frail. I think that last week when she stopped eating and couldn’t even swallow liquids, she had decided that she’d had enough and it was now time to go to her eternal rest. I have so many happy memories to hold onto, and that twinkle in her eye is one of them.

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Mom was always of very slim build; on a sofa she took up hardly any space at all. In spite of her slight frame, she was a powerhouse of energy and wasn’t at all afraid of hard work. I remember that when I was a child, she worked from early morning and often late into the night doing stuff for her family. We didn’t have money to spare, so she made what we did have, stretch and stretch as far as possible. She baked and pickled and bottled and sewed as though her life depended on it. She made sure that my sister and I were always well turned out, and she spent many evenings making us beautiful dresses and jackets.  She not only cleaned her own house, but also went out to clean an elderly neighbour’s house in her ‘spare’ time. Mom taught me how to iron at a very early age, and I remember how proud I was as an eight-year-old, to be able to iron dad’s handkerchiefs. She was a timid cook but a fantastic baker. Her apple pies and coconut tarts were second to none, and every day, we had dessert of some kind. Her “wait and see” chocolate pudding was our absolute favourite.

Mom had a sharp wit and a wonderful sense of humour. When were together, the smiles and laughter came thick and fast. She saw the funny side of everything, and I’ve inherited this sometimes embarrassing trait. My sister is the same but even worse, and when the three of us got together, you would have been forgiven for assuming that we’d been let out for the day from some institution for the insanely comical. I’ve also passed this gene on to my daughter, and our long-suffering husbands have just had to learn to live with it, bless their cotton socks.

Some of you may remember that Mom celebrated her 90th birthday at the end of May. It was a very special occasion indeed, and I didn’t realise then that it would be the last time I saw her.

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Mom’s unwavering faith in God has been a constant in our family, and she has set a great example to us all. She wasn’t perfect of course,  but she truly believed that one day she would be with her Lord in Paradise. Oh that we could all find the perfect peace that she felt about moving on from this earthly life. Mom you will forever be in my heart.

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Today has been very traumatic and many tears have been shed, but I thought I’d just let you know what’s been happening with me. Hubby and I will be in South Africa for the memorial service on Tuesday, and will stay for a while with my sister, so that we can spend time together, remembering our Mom and chatting about the good times. I’ll see you all when I return to Florida.

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230 comments on “Darling Mom, I miss you already

  1. My deepest sympathies are with you and your family. I’m so sorry. I can see what a light your mom was in life, and that light certainly lives on…what beautiful, gorgeous memories- what a stunning, wonderful person. I delight in your memories and wish I could have seen you three chortling and checkling together. A fabulous trait to pass on. I remember when my mum died I called my friend Jen and Jen immediately began sharing funny memories featuring my mum and her exuberant antics. We found ourselves laughing together through the tears. I am so grateful you can delight in these kinds of memories too. I can see your mom was a truly majestic, courageous and deeply caring woman. We are thinking of you, dear Sylvia. Hugs,

    Autumn Jade

  2. I’m so sorry for your loss – a mother is always a mother. Thank you for writing this wonderful tribute to your mother for us to share. My thoughts are with you,

  3. Condolences to you and your family. I pray for the eternal repose of your mother’s soul.

    You wrote such a wonderful tribute to your mother. She lives on through you.

  4. I’m so sorry for your loss, Sylvia. It’s must be a hard time you’re going through right now. When Granny’s mother died 9 years ago, she felt incomplete, like she was missing a pawt of herself. It’s so good to have our memories and this is such a beautiful and heartfelt tribute to your beloved mom. Soft Pawkisses ❤ ❤ ❤

  5. Such a lovely post about your beloved mother, Sylvia. You so right in that one can never ‘prepare’ for the passing of a beloved parent. May you travel safely as being with your sister at this time will be a comfort to both of you. Mourn as you must but also remember the happy times.

  6. I have yet to experience this degree of loss and I am in my 50’s your mother clearly had a full and fruitful life – you are in our prayers with her faith you are assured she is in a better place than this, take care Scott

  7. Oh dear Sylvia – I’m so very sorry for the loss of your beloved mom.
    May she rest in peace.
    And – may the love you shared forever live in your heart.
    {HUGS}

  8. i’m so sorry to hear this. A loss like this hits us in waves over time, as the memories wash over us. Let the tears come, and enjoy those wonderful memories. What a gift she left you all in laughter. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers as you grieve and remember her. It sounds like she was an amazing mom, and a lovely person.

  9. How very fortunate you are to have had this special relationship with your mother. And what a wonderful remembrance you have written about her. You have shared so many happy times about your family on your blog that brought laughter and enjoyment to your readers. And now you are just as open with the sad times you are experiencing. Thank you for sharing and know that we feel your loss.

  10. Thank you for sharing your memories and thoughts of your darling Mother. I feel your sadness but also the thought that your Mother passed peacefully is a blessing. My thoughts will be with you. That is a lovely photo to share with us and yes her eyes are special showing all her kindness and happiness.

  11. I am so sorry for your loss Sylvia. Words can only say so much – I just wanted to say that my heart goes out to you.You have written a beautiful post in memory of you mother.
    – Inger

  12. I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your mom, Sylvia. My mom turned 90 this past june, and your writing is a reminder to me to cherish every moment with her. I am glad your faith and your memories of her are a comfort for you at this very difficult time. Take Care of yourself. ~Rita

  13. Such a great tribute to a lovely lady Sylvia. I am sorry for your loss sweetness. Lots of Hugs and know you are in my thoughts. ♥

  14. Nothing ever prepares you no matter if the passing is sudden or as they say anticipated. But you have memories and you just have to make sure they never fade and your pictures are treasures that will help.

  15. Sylvia, your tribute to your mother is marvelous. Sounds like she was a great mother and person to have been in your life. It’s okay to grieve and cry and feel sad. But remembering the good times, the happy times and laughter will eventually be felt even more deeply in your heart than it is right now. We in the blogosphere are all sending you and your family love and energy.

  16. Oh dear Sylvia this is such sad news and Alyce and I are heartbroken to hear of the passing of your lovely mom.
    Our sincere condolences on your loss and our thoughts are with you at this difficult time.

  17. my condolences… she was an amazing woman -your eulogy to her here is lovely.
    (ps you do resemble her looks wise) stay strong… she led a good life and it is amazing you did get to see her for her last birthday

  18. The tribute to your Mother is so lovely, Sylvia, and reading it broke my heart knowing how much you would have liked to have been with her. Your love and the love of your family gave her enormous comfort, and in turn hopefully that thought will bring you some comfort as well. I’ve always enjoyed reading about your Mom, and hope to continue to read more stories about her. I will miss her too! Take care and prayers to you and your family.

  19. You mother sounded like an absolute treasure, Sylvia. At least you got to see her for her 90th birthday. How wonderful for her to have had absolute faith in God and the hereafter, to have that peace of mind and surety as she passed over. I love your tribute to her. Sending you a big hug. Sarah xxxx

  20. That is a wonderful poem and I am sure you and your family will always have good memories to share of your Mom. It is so hard to lose a parent, no matter how old we are, and I feel your sadness and sense of loss. But she has left you all with something precious – her love, her humour and her lovely eyes 🙂
    Jude xx

  21. So sorry for your loss but how wonderful to have these happy memories of your mother. The poem is comforting too and it sounds like it’s very appropriate that you should “feel no guilt in laughter”. Travel safely.

  22. I am so sorry for your loss, my dear Sylvia. Losing a parent, mom especially is so hard… but she will always live in your heart and thoughts. She will always be with you. Sending you my thoughts and a warm hug.

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