May 8 2016

Remembering my Mom today

“Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.”  ~ Elizabeth Stone

Some people deride the commercialisation of Mother’s Day, saying that if you show your love and appreciation every day, then there’s no need for a special ‘Mom’s Day’. For those mothers and their children who live far away from one another and have to make do most of the time with Skype calls and photos on Facebook or Instagram, I believe that this day is really wonderful. Of course I know that my son and daughter love me to bits every day of the year, but on Mother’s Day there’s an extra special bond of cherishing one another. It’s a celebration of being a mother and having a mother. This year as I walked through the store and saw all the lovely Mother’s Day cards on display. I was reminded that this year, I no longer have a mother to send a card to. Maybe the first year is the hardest, or more likely than not I’ll  feel the same sadness every year as Mom’s special day comes around. Mom and I had some really precious times together, so I will remember and celebrate the fact that I had this wonderful woman in my life for so long. My darling Mom, although you’re no longer here, I can still feel your love.

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“A mother is she who can take the place of all others, but whose place no one else can take.” ~ Unknown

Wishing you all and especially the Moms, a really great Sunday.

 

110 comments on “Remembering my Mom today”

  2. Such a beautiful testimony to your dear mother and the love and bond between you that will always remain. I love this photo of you both dear Sylvia. I hope you had a wonderful Mother’s Day and I’m sorry this is so late…love & hugs to you my dear friend ❤ xoxo

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  5. I’m a bit late in posting this but I wanted to reply to your moving post about your mother. The first few years after my mother died, Mother’s Day was very hard .. And time gradually helped … Now I often feel her gentle, wise presence around me … As I’m sure you will too.

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  9. A heartfelt write for this day called Mother’s Day. Yes, having one day to remind those who take their Mother’s for granted is a good thing. In this techno world where a computers or iPads or iPhones are the only way people are communicating it’s nice to have a face to face visit or actual call.
    Seeing your Mom brought back the many memories of posts you had done with her. She was a beautiful woman especially since she created a beautiful daughter.
    Belated Mother’s Day greetings, Sylvia. May you have many, many more days of heartfelt memories of your mom.
    Isadora 😍

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    • Thanks, Adrian. Yes, photographs are very precious, as they can evoke wonderful memories. I remember this was the last time she came to stay with us, and she so enjoyed sitting on that bench looking out to sea.

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  11. I can feel emptiness and loneliness in your beautiful text about your mother …
    But the comfort a day like this is all the memories we have …
    And I know by following your blog, that your mother were , and you are … incredible women …
    I belive you inherited a gift from your mother … Living your life to the fulliest …
    Hugs to you dear Sylvia … // Maria 🙂

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  15. Wonderful photo of you and your Mother…it is sad she is not longer with you but it is great you concentrate on the beautiful memories! Hope you enjoyed your day!

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  19. What a beautiful photo of you both. Cherish those special memories that you have and the special place that she has in your heart. Hugs to you.

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  21. The first year is the most difficult, in my experience ~ Mother’s Day and her birthday, too. It does get easier each year but never really becomes EASY. Now I try to focus on remembering the fun times and the laughter when those days come around. Wishing you peace, Sylvia.

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  24. I hope you had a wonderful Mother’s Day, Sylvia. My neighbours got together and gave me a wonderful day knowing I recently lost my mum. There was loads of love, laughs and hugs – I’m hoping the first is the hardest, but we’ll just have to wait and see. This post is a beautiful tribute to your mom xxxx

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  27. It would be so hard to walk through the stores at this time, knowing you don’t have her anymore. I love how you concentrate on all the joy and friendship you had together, mother and daughter in such a loving way. I still kept a few of my Mom’s cards, ones she cannot write so well anymore, but yes, I still have her. She wrote on several, “You always were my best friend, Robin.” Those words are to be forever cherished and I am so thankful to have two loving and devoted parents. You and I were blessed. ❤
    I didn't get so close to my Dad until he retired from NASA, his relief of stress was gone and he watched women's shows during the late 70's and would tell me stuff about periods and moodiness and how sorry he didn't understand and would argue with me and send me to my room. I know now how stressful parenting is and I laugh out loud at his giving credit to his newly acquired knowledge as he would call them, "My Oprah days." 🙂

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    • yes, I love that you and your mom were also best friends, Robin. Thanks for sharing about your dad. I wish my dad had watched ‘women’s shows’. Maybe he would have been able to relax more and enjoy life. 😀

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      • Oh, I think my Dad was a “rare bird” who was always trying to learn something new, even if it were about the female species! Lol. We don’t need to watch any shows to understand men, they are pretty straightforward! 😉
        I was glad you had such a dear, sweet mother. When I started reading your blog, I thought you two were like “two peas in a pod,” Sylvia. ❤

  29. Indeed, her place, no one else can take… however, your heart will always be full because of her, as this is her permanent place. A beautiful Sunday to you too, Sylvia. 🙂

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  31. I lost my mum less than a year ago. I find the space that she left is so very sad and sometimes overpowering. Sometimes I still can’t believe she’s gone. But I was very lucky to have a wonderful close relationship with her, with lovely memories. That’s a lovely photo of you and your mum. X

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  33. I agree with you wholeheartedly. Mother’s Day is special for it is a reminder of all mothers who have come before. There is a connection that spans lifetimes. We celebrate the present; even more, we honour the story of family, of love, of memory, of hope. In doing so, we give breath to the next generation. There is always a nostalgia for what was, but there is also a joy for what comes next… Happy Mother’s Day!

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    • Thanks so much for your lovely comment, Rebecca. Ah, the nostalgia for the past, interwoven with the joys of the present and our hopes for the future. This is what life is made up of. 🙂 xx

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  34. Happy Mother’s Day, Sylvia. Having warm and loving parents is the best. Enjoy all the happy memories you have of your mom, your kids, and your grandkids.

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  39. Yes, it is strange not to have a mom to send a card to. It leaves one feeling a little untethered. The opening quote is wonderful.

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  41. The first quote says it all Ad. I’m not too fussed about Mother’s Day in relation to myself but they surely tug at your heart strings. Have a lovely day whatever you’re up to xxx

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  43. As someone who also no longer has a Mom to call, it is my experience that this day is always tinged with a bit of sadness. However, I take great comfort in the fact that I have so many great memories of my Mom. I think you do as well, and in that I think we are both blessed. Happy Mother’s Day to you.

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  46. We’ve never celebrated Mother’s Day much and always say that every day is mother’s day. I cherish the time I’m spending with my mother (and father) now as they are in their late ’80’s and who knows what each day can bring. I know I’ll be devastated when they’re gone. Lovely tribute to your mom and Happy Mother’s Day to you.

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